I write this blog as a way of venting some frustrations a married woman has when she is living alone with the kids. I know many of you will identify with a situation like mine, where daddy is in diaspora and you are at home and life goes on. We have our many different reasons for choosing a set up like this one, and one common denominator is financial situation.
Anyways what to do.......you really don't want to get a divorce because it will just complicate your life, coz lets be honest you have become very comfortable with the distance and being an "independent woman" No one to cook for and fuss over. No reporting your every move.
But there comes the lonely nights when you think about him and you miss that warm body in your bed, the sweet nothings, the face the other way you are breathing in my face the list is endless. What does a woman do?? Do you anticipate what you will do the next time you see him, which is probably twice a year or do you look for what the Afrikaner's call a skalempee(sidekick) Do you call upon your bff who probably have their own men they have to attend to??
Help someone lets talk about this, I know there is someone out there in the same dilemma as I am.
What's it like when u see him after so long?
ReplyDelete@ Thandz there is a mixture of excitement and fear. Excitement because it has been so long and fear because we are drifting apart.
ReplyDeletehow d'u suppress e urge to gt another man? cz obviously u miss e affection n ol...
ReplyDelete@ ashie bee yes what you've said is obvious but this is the help I need from my fellow sistas. What to do to avoid falling into that trap?
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